When the past calls, let it go to voicemail. It has nothing new to say
How accurate is this saying.
Gosh I don’t even know where to start. Is it only me who has to deal with this? Surely it can’t be.
Most of us have such warm memories from the past. we find it so hard to let go. But its madness to try and re-live that part of your life again. But don’t you just hate it when the past keeps calling. It’s like they couldn’t find anyone better and realised no one would put up with their bullshit. They come running back to you. They think your still that stupid person they once walked all over. Maturity does not come from age it comes from experiences. The deeper the scars they stronger you are. No one waits around sobbing over anyone and I’m not talking about just the lovers here I’m talking about everyone all the so-called friends and family members and so on. This doesn’t just apply to your ex . It’s for everyone that walked all over you. Was never there for you in your difficult time. They left you at your worst, and now that they see you doing so well, they start asking how comes we lost touch? I mean seriously !
The worst one has to be when they ask you, if you could be friends again? Ok! let me start of course we can be friends again, because I have such a fish memory that I will forget the hell you put me through, and i will forgive the pain you caused me. I’ll just be the bigger person shall I.
Now that I am at peace, And I have found the light and meaning to my life. You want to crawl back? And remind me of everything i left behind? What are you?
This is how most people would react but this just does not help.
When people decide to walk out of your life, It’s for a reason. We might not see it that way at the time, But its true. They leave because they no longer find a connection. They no longer appreciate your company. The selfish ones walk away when you stop doing things for them. When you stop being loyal to ungrateful people they no longer feel the need to stick around. When you are at your lowest, That is when you realise who your real companions are. You don’t need to look back. You’ve been there many times and nothing was wroth keeping. If you keep looking back you’ll keep tripping when moving forward.
When the past calls, Let it call eventually it will hang up, Just like it did before. Never take anyone back, If they can leave you once, They will never hesitate to leave you again. They know you too well, That’s why they keep crawling back.
This whole process should teach you to BE YOU. Work on your self and those who stay know your worth and those who leave never knew you. Why chase after someone who only wants to benefit themselves. The company you keep says a lot about you as a person. If you surround yourself with selfish people, You’ll never get far in life. All you will feel is aches pains and wondering how “YOU” got there. Don’t be so deluded open your eyes and see the bigger picture, There is so much more to life, Then running back to open the doors to let them crawl back in. No one likes to move backwards, Everyone likes to move forward. Just like how they moved on when they left you.
Take each day to develop yourself pay no attention to what they think of you or who they are with. The more time you waste worrying about how much of a good time they are having, The less happy you’ll be. Don’t depend on anyone for your own happiness, If you do you’ll be sad forever. Happiness is not a thing , It’s a feeling that comes by appreciating the little things you do for yourself. The only person who has your back is YOU. The moment you appreciate “YOU” there’s nothing that will stop you from pressing that BLOCK button.
Unless you glance back and learn from a mistake you are just going to be staring at the “damaged you”. If you don’t move past it and settle it, forgive it and forget it, you are only hurting your soul and spirit.
Never let someone with the significance of a speed bump become a roadblock in your life!